Monday, August 26, 2013

Waiting for dawn

What do you have left when you've nearly given up? You can't see anything from where you are now, you don't even know if you want to see anything at all. I felt like that for so long I have a real fear of feeling it again. It took so long to pull myself back out I nearly lost everything I didn't realize I had. And by "so long" I really mean a very long time. Years, really. One situation overshadows another and before long you've buried yourself in so much crap you make everyone around you miserable whether you mean to or not.

I asked a friend this morning what her goal is for the next year. She seemed down about life and well, I know the feeling. I like to inspire. I want to know I've made a difference to someone. I have the word "Inspire" tattooed on my foot.... it's been a fabulous reminder so far of the person I've aspired to be.

My friend was disappointed in herself when she didn't have a goal for the next year. I suggested she go to a place she loves - in this case hiking in the mountains - and take a snack, water, and a notebook and pencil. I told her to tell God outloud how much she appreciates His handiwork! And then begin to write a prayer with questions, making sure to include the date. Do this exercise as often as possible and leave a gap for notes.

I had done this exercise several years ago when I was floundering around life and some of my prayerful questions were answered within a couple weeks. After a while I moved away from the idea, misplaced my notebook and relocated to a larger farm down the road. Discovering my notebook a couple years ago made such an impact I've never forgotten it. Some of my prayers weren't answered for 2 years! Ridiculous to me, but all in perfect time.

I feel lately like I'm not giving enough back. Not giving enough back to my kids, my church, the foster and adoption communities I've pledged to support and be a resource for. Am I failing somewhere? I'm losing sight of my goals. Back to the drawing board.... rather, the notebook. Some days I just need to be reminded to take a bit of my own advice. If I take care of me, I have more me to give.